Tips On How To Strengthen Your NLP Skills
If you study and practise NLP skills, you are taking steps to taking complete responsibility (or maybe that should read response-ability) for your life. Not only can your NLP skills be applied to help you learn more effortlessly and increase your level of enthusiasm, but they will furthermore enable you to become an outstanding communicator. What is more you will be equipped to offer your knowledge to people both in your personal and business life.
Something you will frequently hear spoken about with respect to NLP skills is resource states. Imagine if you were able to wave an imaginary magic wand and feel any way you desire to feel, anytime you like. Now that would be a gift worth developing!
You realize that there are situations when we wish that we could act differently. For example, many men and women are really terrified of speaking before crowds. We don’t even have to be in the situation. Simply thinking about it can easily bring us out into a cold sweat. Our imaginations go into overdrive as we revisit all the other moments when we have felt anxious, and then they amplify all those negative feelings, safe in the knowledge that it is destined to happen again. And thus, it is somewhat a self-fulfilling phophecy.
You can see from the example that we actually practise getting into negative resource states, such as feeling anxious, on a regular basis. Although these states are not particularly useful, we evidently know well the practice of state induction and there is no reason why we should not utilize the same method to create constructive resource states.
So, what type of emotional state would be useful in this circumstance? The choice is yours, but it would most likely be invaluable to be comfortable and calm. Well, you do already know what it is like to be like this. All you have to do, as previously in negative circumstances, is to call to mind all the occasions when you felt comfortable and self-assured and make it as authentic as you can. Remember everything about it, from how you stood, how you were breathing, how you felt, what you saw and what you heard back then.
In the unlikely event that you are not able to recollect any events when you felt the type of states that you are planning to access, then you probably know somebody who is a role model for you, who you can copy. Maybe you know them personally or they are a public figure, and you can effortlessly visualize how they would tackle your situation and act as they would. See, listen and feel as they would and replicate their behavior.
You may have noticed that sometimes that there little things that trigger memories and all the associated feelings you experienced at the time. Maybe, it is someone giving you a slap on the back that reminds you of how you felt when your father gave you a congratulatory one upon your passing an exam, or perhaps a whiff of a certain perfume brings to mind a romantic dance. These triggers are known as anchors, and as one of your NLP skills, you can choose an appropriate anchor and integrate it into the resource state that you are working on. So, you need to make your chosen state as big and bold as you can and then build in an anchor, such as scratching the tip of your nose. Then, whenever you do this action again, it will bring back the feelings of the resource state automatically.
You are possibly now acknowledging the relevance of practising the NLP skills of producing resource states and anchoring. These are NLP techniques that you can apply to all areas of your life. Of course, the beauty of perfecting these skills is that the ensuing states will greatly boost your communication skills and have a great impact on the other individuals that you come into contact with.
NLP THE PEARL, Slovenia, Dr. Neja Zupan, Bisernica
