Applying Your NLP Skills To Create Ideal Resource States
Regardless of whether you have read about Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) in a book, or you have received formalised coaching in NLP, it is always valuable boosting your NLP skills. If you incorporate NLP skills into your everyday life, you give yourself more choices about how you live . In effect, it gives you the tools and techniques to enhance your relationships, your interaction with others and to achieve excellence in whatever you wish to accomplish.
The topic of this article is resource states, as spoken about in the context of NLP skills. Suppose you could wave an imaginary magic wand and feel any way you want to feel, whenever you like. How marvelous would that be!
There are probably countless instances when you would prefer to be in better command of your feelings, but as yet you have not been able to learn this skill. For example, a lot of individuals are really terrified of public-speaking. Even worrying about it in advance, we can change ourselves into quivering wrecks. Our imaginations go into overdrive as we revisit all the other moments when we have felt tense, and then they amplify all those lousy feelings, safe in the knowledge that it is sure to happen again. And therefore, it is somewhat a self-fulfilling phophecy.
You can notice from the example that we actually practise getting into undesirable resource states, such as feeling anxious, on a regular basis. Although these states are not particularly beneficial, we evidently know well the practice of state induction and there is no reason why we should not apply the same process to produce positive resource states.
And so, what sort of emotional state would be useful in this scenario? You would probably like to be serene and confident. There have probably been countless other instances when you have encountered these feelings before. All you have to do, as before in negative situations, is to recollect all the occasions when you felt serene and confident and make it as authentic as you can. Recollect everything about it, from how you was standing, how you were breathing, how you felt, what you noticed and what you were listening to at that time.
Now, if you are imagining that you can’t do this because you have never felt this way before, then visualize how somebody who is calm and confident would stand, breathe and feel. Possibly this is somebody you admire for being this way. You may have noticed that sometimes that there little things that trigger memories and all the associated feelings you experienced at the time. Maybe, it is someone giving you a slap on the back that reminds you of how you felt when your father gave you a congratulatory one upon your passing an exam, or perhaps a whiff of a certain perfume brings to mind a romantic dance. These triggers are known as anchors, and as one of your NLP skills, you can choose an appropriate anchor and integrate it into the resource state that you are working on. So, you need to make your chosen state as big and bold as you can and then build in an anchor, such as scratching the tip of your nose. Then, whenever you do this action again, it will bring back the feelings of the resource state automatically.
You are possibly now acknowledging the importance of practising the NLP skills of generating resource states and anchoring. These are NLP techniques that you can apply to all areas of your life. Of course, the benefit of mastering these skills is that the ensuing states will significantly develop your communication skills and have a favorable impact on the other people that you come into contact with.
